about joey

portrait of the artist as a middle-aged butch


I’m a tattooed, tzitzit-wearing, genderqueer, Talmud-studying, cartoon-drawing, Jewish butch dyke/trans guy artist cleverly disguised as a sysadmin. I used to be a tattoo apprentice, but I gave it up because I was tired of working on Shabbat and never seeing my family.

I like coffee, eating, any kind of music, men’s haberdashery, singing my ass off at any opportunity, and my kids. I’m in my mid-forties and thrilled about it — I’ve been waiting my whole life to be this curmodgeonly.

21 things i want in a joey (or, trivia)

  • My dream in life was, for quite some time, to be a tattoo artist. These days I want to make long-form comics and graphic novels that at least a small group of people will enjoy.
  • I sang Alto 1 in a women’s chorus before The Plague. I’m also a member of the auditioned a cappella small ensemble within the chorus. I like to sing.
  • People who pass judgment without knowing the whole story really irritate me.
  • People who blindly adhere to rules of any kind without ever questioning them or considering that they might be wrong irritate me even more.
  • I was born into a Christian family, de-converted from Christianity when I was 28, and converted to Judaism when I was 34. I believe I was born with a Jewish soul and do a lot of talking to Shechinah, even though I get pissed at her a lot.
  • I was officially diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 29.
  • In terms of queer/gender identity, I self-identify as 100% butch dyke and trans guy. It’s complicated and yet not. (See the memoir “Chemically Enhanced Butch” by Ty Bo for a person who has a similar attitude towards his gender identity.)
  • I am far too hard on myself most of the time.
  • I am an ordained maggid.
  • I was once described as a force of nature.
  • But most people think I’m just a freak of nature. 😉 *fingerguns*
  • My secret shame is really horrible TV. It used to be country music, but I got over it.
  • The hardest thing I ever did was come out to my parents  take care of my wife through her cancer and subsequent illness  live through my wife’s untimely death at 46.
  • In looks and attitude, I resemble Daria more than is probably healthy. Well, not so much the looks any more, but definitely still the attitude.
  • I have been on the Internet (well, Bitnet, then the Internet) since 1991. I have had a Web site since 1996 and have kept a blog or journal on and off since 1999. I can’t seem to get away from it.
  • My wife and I raised four resisting, subversive, anti-authority monkeychildren. I had nothing to do with making them little radicals, but I am very glad to have the opportunity to help keep them that way.
  • I passionately believe that anyone can learn to draw, and should if they so desire.